She hands him his $0.64 in change and as he walks away with his coffee in hand, he gestures towards the tip jar: “put it towards your college fund.”
We turn and stare at him with our jaws dropped, and as his back is turned I flip him the bird. Perhaps inappropriate, but well-deserved.
A letter, then, to The Asshole.
Dear Sir:
Perhaps you thought this measly donation to our tip jar was a mighty show of generosity and understanding for what you obviously consider to be our lesser position in society. Though in your narrow-minded, elitist point of view we are screw-ups, burn-outs, slackers, fuck-ups, and any other of the litany of judgmental yet not necessarily offensive names you might think to call us, we would have you know that, in fact, every single one of us holds a college degree (and if we didn’t, what would it matter?). Some, in fact, hold more than one, or soon will. We speak multiple languages and have traveled the world, and are talented musicians, artists, athletes, educators, writers, and community leaders. We are mothers and mothers-to-be, we are girlfriends and wives and single ladies, sons and brothers. We have made a choice to be here, college degrees and life experiences (which I am sure far exceed yours) in hand, and respect ourselves and the choices we’ve made. We respect our colleagues, who have made similar life choices, and we respect — usually — those we encounter in our daily lives.
All of this is more than can be said for you, you disrespectful, judgmental, self-superior prick. You seem to have missed the lesson which the rest of us learned in kindergarten (perhaps you didn’t go?): that above all else is respect for one’s self and for others, and after that is to not judge a book by its cover. Perhaps, then, you ought to put your sixty-four cents in change towards your college education and pick up on all those lessons you missed.
Till next time, when we might flip you off to your face,
The Ski Bums.



7 comments
K Farber says:
Feb 25, 2012
Huh? What am I missing…tone of voice?
Incident as seen from the other side of the counter: “Great, these are friendly, articulate, efficient servers… hmmmmm my coffee looks good, I’ll leave them the change they could probably use it. I remember I could have used more tips when I was working my way through (under/grad) school.”
Karen says:
Feb 25, 2012
Was it the size of the tip or the allusion to a college fund that revealed he was a narrow-minded, elitist, judgmental, disrespectful, self-superior, offensive-name thinker? Must have been one pretty rotten day!
Audrey says:
Feb 26, 2012
It is just condescending. Would you say that to one of your servers? I mean, we’re not giving his money back, obviously. It’s just the assumption that we need his (disdainful) help, that we couldn’t get through school, that he is somehow better than us, that this is a job/lifestyle we have out of necessity rather than choice, which implies that it is sub-par or lesser in some way.
Audrey says:
Feb 26, 2012
More: why would he say “put it in your college fund” rather than “keep the change” or “put it in the tip jar”? Why is the implied judgment (that we haven’t gone to college) necessary? If he wants to just give us more money, there are so many other ways to do it than bringing his preconceived notions about our education into it.
Dustin M says:
Feb 27, 2012
Maybe you just have a youthful presence about you and he thought you were a few years younger. You do also speak with the tone and intellect of an educated person, so I could very easily see someone mistaking you for still being in college.
Hope all is well!
Dustin
LNF says:
Feb 29, 2012
nice heart. is that soy milk or something? gurl whole milk over a ristretto shot for better contrast! (I hope I just sounded like a coffee snob). The other day someone left us a necklace with a bullet and a small canister for drugs on it in the tip jar. I wonder if we looked like violent addicts….I guess that’s better than uneducated fuck ups
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Audrey says:
Mar 1, 2012
Fun story, I tried whole and ristretto and I over=foamed my milk SADFACE.